Iβve done my fair share of casual dating in my lifetime, and one thing I noticed is that most of the men Iβve dated all seem to have the same behaviors β behaviors that, well, seem as if they werenβt interested. Now, I can take a hint, so I assumed most of them just werenβt all that into me. However, some of them insisted I was wrong and that they were, indeed, interested.
To summarize, men are clueless. If youβre a man in the dating world, congratulations, because Iβm about to save your (love) life. Here are the 5 things youβre doing to make a woman think that youβre not interested.
1. Not texting first
Women hate to be the ones to constantly initiate things, including conversations. Itβs nice to know that youβre thinking about us, and by texting us first for once, it shows that. It doesnβt need to be elaborate, but just a simple text saying βhiβ or asking how our day is going is going to put a smile on our face.
2. Short text responses
If the only thing youβre responding is βyeah, hahahaβ or anything thatβs not progressing the conversation, we will just assume that youβre not interested and forget about you. Youβll be gone quicker than last nightβs bottle of wine. We can take hints and that one is telling us βI donβt want to talk to you.β Sure, some people just arenβt big into texting, but if thatβs the case and youβre making no effort to communicate in any form otherwise, itβs a red flag. Now, a lot of scenarios can come into play here as to why you arenβt answering, but once we have reason to believe you arenβt interested, weβll run with it.
3. Taking too long to respond
People are busy, we all have lives. Weβre not going to expect you to be glued to your phone all day or drop what youβre doing to text us back, but if you happen to see our text, it doesnβt hurt to shoot us a βhey, saw your text, Iβm in the middle of something, talk laterβ to let us know that we arenβt being ignored. By all means, itβs entirely possible that you just havenβt seen your phone, but as long as we donβt catch you looking at our Snapchat stories, posting on Instagram, or using other apps that require mobile phone use, we wonβt even care.
4. Not initiating plans
If weβre always the ones to ask you to dinner, to catch a movie, or to spend a day together, itβs definitely going to cross our minds that you might not be interested. It wonβt be long before weβre tired of wasting our time and will want to move on. We want someone who is excited to see us and will do what they can to make that happen.
5. Avoiding plans
Sometimes itβs hard to make plans because you have to work around two different schedules that donβt always match up. But if we have to initiate the plans and you donβt give a definite answer or you change the subject, weβll assume youβre not interested in us. If it seems like youβre only making excuses not to see us, weβll take the hint.
If youβre not interested in a woman, then youβre welcome for these tips on how to drop her since youβre too chicken to be upfront and just tell her youβre not interested. If you are interested, then please be aware of your actions or lack thereof. If youβre wanting that relationship to go anywhere, than you need to be upfront about your intentions and quit treating women like theyβre your annoying little brother. You can tell us youβre interested in dating us but your actions will always say more about your intentions than your words. We wonβt wait around because weβve got bigger fish to